Thursday, April 9, 2015

Bali in 4 nights........


3 April 2015 - 6:51pm
Last night was a late one with friends, both of the flesh & body and barley & hops variety. Shut my eyes @ 1 with a bit of a buzz and dreading the 5am alarm. Made it to the airport by 6:30 for my 8:40 flight via Air Asia, my head still fresh with the memory of their airliner crash only a few months ago. 
We landed safely in Bali, a place I had been both in 1999 and all the way back in 1987 as a young pup. The second I saw the ocean again as I walked down the flight stairs to the tarmac, I knew I didn't want to leave.....ever. There's a magic here that's impossible to iterate. Maybe it's the way they've managed to preserve their culture all these years yet catch up to modern times, all evident in a stroll down a sandy dirt road. The women still carry things atop their heads, just like I remember, but now some do it while checking Facebook on their mobiles. Talk about multitasking! 



My driver stopped @ a place called Pasir Putih, which means "White Sandy Beach," yet most of the sand was volcanic. Not sure how that works. And by diverting my eyes at the very last minute, I missed seeing, by the grace of God, another un-circumcised German weiner. Why is that Germans think they can change out of their speedos right there on the beach for all to see their pride and joy? Why is that acceptable on the beach? By the way, if you're wondering why I said "another," just relax. I've been on a lot of beaches with Germans.....



After some breath-taking rice paddy views, I told the driver we'd call it a night. We each got a simple room in a local home-stay.....bathroom with no roof and breakfast included, all for 11 bucks. A Bintang beer and a plate of mie goreng topped off the night. What a place! Not one for using double negatives in the written form, I'll make an exception here: You can't not love this place......



4 April 2015 - 7:23pm
My friends, it gets no better than banana pancakes for breakfast in Bali. That and some sweet tea and the silence of a beach bungalow morning gets the day started right. I met two of the cutest little girls in the world at my homestay. They must have been 3 and 5, and they were playing with makeshift toy cars made from a water bottle and a beer can, hand-carved wheels made of scrap wood, and "driven" by a bamboo stick that was tied to a string. Dad tends to them all day, and after having 3 already he now desperately wants a boy. When he is old and the girls are all married and have their own families there will be no one to care for him like he cares for his widowed father. He dreads the thought of it. His wife works all night in a hotel kitchen then comes home after a 12-hour shift and cooks and cleans. No time for anything. Life is paradise here for a foreigner with a couple of bucks in his pocket, but there are real people here, struggling to survive day to day to make ends meet. But you'd never know this unless you take the time to get to know them.. 


Today's biggest highlight was that my driver passed a spot that I remember stopping @ 28 years ago. I even have a pic of that moment with the German guy I toured the island with by motorbike back then. It's such a stunning location on a high bluff overlooking a turquoise cove below. I stood on the very same spot today not only in awe of the view but in deep sentimental recollection of the moment I stood there 28 years prior. I was literally caught in a time warp for those 15 minutes. An eye-welling moment for sure that is impossible to describe..... 



Later I made it to the north coast, where the sand is all volcanic from the 1883 Krakatoa eruption. The eruption was so powerful it produced huge tsunamis that killed more than 36,000 people. The explosion is considered to be the loudest sound ever heard in modern history. They say people heard it 3,000 miles away.
The rain came down in sheets soon after I arrived, so I decided on a 1-hour full-body oil massage. This set me back a whole 7 bucks, shucks. Good recommendation from a local proprietor to whom, incidentally, I admitted that I had been there back in '87. He then yelled to his dad: "Dad, what year was I born?" "1991," replied pops. He then laughed that I was there before he was born. I then laughed that he didn't know what year he was born. Again, part of the magic of Bali. 



Now @ dinner some Germans are ordering a caesar salad and chicken with mushrooms. Those Germans again. I guess "when in Bali, eat like a dumb foreigner." I'll be looking for a local speciality instead tonight: crispy duck.
Getting here is the hard part, people.....the rest is as easy and interesting as a banana pancake. P.S. I have nothing against Germans.....






5 April 2015 - 8:40pm


Last night before bed and after a delicious plate of tuna satay, I did something I rarely do anymore, or at least not since I moved to sandy, over-lit Dubai: I looked up at the sky at night. Wow! I saw actual stars! The sky was absolutely peppered with their cheery brightness, and there was no light pollution to obscure the pride of their beaming twinkles. One of life's simplest pleasures can truly be awe-inspiring. Takes me back again when we set sail from Bali to Perth all those years ago. The sky over the Indian Ocean was a veritable Christmas tree, and I'll never forget how long I lay there on the deck of that schooner just staring into space. Time warp number 2 for me. Not sure how much of this my system can take!


Today was a dip in the hot springs built by the 
Japanese when they invaded Indonesia in the '40s. Have to say, it was a bit disappointing.....the waterfall soon after, however, was astounding. It shot down from about 100ft and swimming beneath it was as exhilarating an experience as I've had in quite some time. The power of falling water is an awesome force.
Kuta Beach, Bali......absolute craziness. Kuta is Thailand's answer to Phuket....there's nothing you cannot get here if you want it. This is not the Bali I came to see, but it's the Bali that has to be seen. Back in '87 there were a few hotels on the beach and mostly just bamboo huts on the beach for accommodation. No more. This place makes Seaside look like Amish country now, and every inch of it is exploited for the almighty rupiah. I cannot wait to body surf again tomorrow. Some of the best here I've ever tackled, and I've taken on some fearsome waves before.
It's funny how foreigners try not to look each other in the eye out here, like they're unwilling to admit that others know about this place too and that they are not some Christopher Columbus on an uncharted voyage. It's definitely as much of an un-written taboo now as it always was.
I cannot help but laugh how many of the people I see walking these streets were not even alive when I was first here. I feel sorry for them that they never saw Bali the way it used to be.




7 April 2015 - 12:11am
Old guys do goofy things. The other day at the hot springs, while everyone serenely enjoyed the warmth of the spring, a older pot-bellied man started doing deep knee bends at the edge of the spring basin. All the bathers noticed him, as his behavior was a bit odd. All of a sudden he did a belly-flop dive straight into the hot spring! The splash was enough to clear about a foot of water from the basin. This brought out more than a chuckle from the mostly Indonesian bathers. I've never actually been in a hot spring before but even my novice eyes knew this was a knucklehead move. I guess it was his first time too. 


Took a morning walk to the beach this morning to check out the waves....and to torture myself if they were breaking well. Not much time before I leave for the monkey temple so I could not have gone out anyway if they were. To my delight the waves were only about 4ft face and breaking fair, so overall not the best surf conditions I've ever seen. Even so I did watch the few surfers jealously and in the process whet my appetite for a potential attempt tomorrow. Do these old bones dare? Can I shake off the dust? See my final post from Bali tomorrow to find out if I took the plunge (not literally!).
I walked down an alleyway near the beach that used to be all trees, narrow sandy paths and bamboo huts way back when. We slept in those huts and fell asleep to the sound of the waves lapping the shore. Perhaps not as rustic as Fletcher Christian experienced but damn close. That same rustic, sandy passage is now all concrete, plaster, glass and metal. I met a local who reminisced with me about old Bali. He even reminded me about how Balinese village women used to be topless in public because that was their traditional "dress." Now, before you book your flights, gents, it ain't like that anymore. The local and I gave each other an empty look and we shrugged in unison. I added a half-hearted "Oh well," not going any deeper into the hows and why's things have "progressed." 



Today was very emotional for me so am going to cut this short. Will share the details tomorrow in my final post from Bali.
P.S. Some local guy just walked up to me in a bar and offered me Cialis. When I said no, he then took a stab at Viagra. Huh? I told you this place had everything.


7 April 2015 - 6:24pm

Our hearts are a vast ocean of possibility and opportunity and the reservoir of our resolve. Our brains are the judge and jury of our heart's convictions and our bodies are the punching bags of the verdicts handed down. On my walk to the ocean this morning I was actually very nervous. What would happen today? When I got to the sea I observed the best of the waves breaking about 100 yards off shore, the ocean amply dotted with surfers.....good surfers. Even in my best days I was not even close to these kids in board skills, and I'd have been a "fish out of water" there among them.....not to mention one big punchline. So yes, I basically chickened out by deciding not to surf, resorting to some light body-surfing instead. I was even too afraid to swim out to the nice breakers without fins, especially with the tide rolling out. When you're staring @ a half century of life, your heart is more like a puddle than an ocean and the body now knows best: If you want to live to tell about it, just do it half-assed. So away I walked from the beach in shame and a bit pissed off @ my pending mortality. Yetty will be glad I didn't surf. 
Twenty eight years ago I booked an economy class passage aboard the train from Jakarta to Bali. The train would eventually stop at the east tip of Java in a small, sleepy town, where I'd then board the ferry to Bali. I befriended an Indonesian guy on the way (Mr. S), who invited me to his home in that small town, Banyuwangi (say that 10 times fast....actually it's not that hard). Mr. S introduced me to his family, which consisted of his wife and 3 young children: 2 boys and the youngest, a 2-yr-old girl. Their house was modest by Indonesian standards, and they didn't have much to offer but their generosity, friendship, and warmth. I stayed with them for an entire week and fell in love with this beautiful young family. 
In 1999 I returned to Banyuwangi to see them with Yetty, as we'd stayed in touch by letter over the years (yes, those paper things we used to seal in envelopes and drop in a big blue metal box). The little boys I first met had now become young men and Raniee, the little girl I bounced on my knee, was now a shy, awkward 14 year old. This time again we stayed for a week, and it was then Yetty's turn to become attached to them. 
Over the following years we stayed in touch intermittently. At first we bumbled through phone calls and an occasional email, which was just starting to take hold. BBM and FB eventually made things so much easier. 
Sixteen years after my last visit, I met Raniee again, now 30, and her beautiful 2-year-old daughter and husband. We ate some delicious crispy duck a few nights ago and reminisced about our common history. Neither Raniee's brothers nor parents could join us, so it was just us and some other good friends. I now bounced Raniee's adorable daughter on my knee and she grew very attached to me, as I to her. Time warp number 3 for me on this trip, as for a moment I was back in 1987 playing with Raniee again the very same way. 
Last night I went to the club where Raniee sings with her band: Funhouse. Her eyes were fixed right @ the door when I walked in apparently in anticipation of my arrival, and she immediately she ran off the stage and gave me a big hug in front of the entire place. I instantly felt like a VIP guest. She showed how honored she was that I came, but what she didn't know was how much more honored I was to be there and see her after all the time that had passed. Funhouse is a slamming rock band that could jam with the best of them, and Raniee can belt it out as if Janis Joplin met Ann Wilson. I was in awe of her talent and presence on stage. 



She calls me uncle now and she proudly introduced me as such to her band. The highlight of the night, and absolutely the most moving, was her version of Alicia Keys' Girl on Fire, which I requested. She hit all Alicia's high notes, and I know she put in extra effort for me on this one. I could not help getting emotional and people noticed. Alicia is one of my wife's and my favorites, and I only wished Yetty was there to enjoy the night with me. The band continued to rock til midnight with Zeppelin, BonJovi, ACDC, GNR, etc., and they had the entire place on their feet. Hugs and kisses ended the night with promises to return (and get Yetty on the stage with her!). 
Folks, these are life's most precious moments. In fact, this entire trip was one big emotional roller-coaster ride that I will forever cherish. I wish you all similar experiences, whether near or far, and the opportunity to take enjoyment from the connections with those you love. God bless....





Wednesday, December 4, 2013

NEPAL

     
June 5, 2013     
     Yet and I picked up Z and S @ Z's place and stopped to grab A as a last-minute addition. Pretty easy ride to Al Sharjah airport....though there were those who thought us crazy for trying. 
     "You will get lost!" 
     "There's no way you will make it!" 
     "There's too much construction!" 
     "It's too confusing!" 
     This was one of our group trips with work meant to build team spirit and engagement......a great chance for me to see Nepal and add another notch on the "countries" section on my belt. No spouses or kids allowed.......
     "What? Your wife will be driving home by herself? Impossible! Careful she doesn't end up in Oman!" 
     Nonsense, I thought, and was later proved correct. 
     At the airport we really did nothing more than stand around and wait. Some had McDonald's but I resisted to wait for the free plane food. Haven't I become quite the tight-wad in my old age? Besides, I'm a once-in-five-years McDonald's guy. 
     At the duty free I bought a bottle of Cap Morgan's dark rum (couldn't find Cuban), while others bought beer and vodka. We swayed up and down the aisles exchanging naughty glances and smirks, each with his own juvenile visions of the dorm-room-style drinking parties, cigars and card games that awaited.
     I was the first to check-in @ the gate and getting excited about the trip and the land that awaited. Slowly my fellow colleagues trickled in behind me. There was a guy who was being detained by the police. The gossip was that Immigration was not allowing him to travel because he had sponsored a friend for a visa and the "friend" overstayed. Huge fines and confiscation of passports are among the punishments that are doled out for this offense, and they don't take no shit when it comes to immigration in the UAE. Nice to see the government run a tight ship on such a critical issue. The US could learn a few things. I threw a silent and half-hearted "what a shame" the guy's way, but no else's stupidity was going to knock me off my game.   
     We boarded the runway bus for the plane and boarded. Air Arabia is very straight forward: no frills with 3 seats on each side of the aisle. Right before takeoff Yet bbmed me that she was safe and sound at the Creek with Arch. The ride was a piece of cake, she said. So much for the nay-sayers who said she'd wind up in Oman.   
     The free meal on board turned out to be a beef patty, bun and lettuce/tomato/pickle, all of which having come in separate containers. I had never seen anything so tacky in my life. But what else was I to do but play along and assemble my burger. After all, I had eschewed McDonald's earlier with delusions of a satisfying meal--and what is more satisfying than free? A big bite now in my mouth I could not help but to realize how tasty it actually was, and by the time I finished the meal I was stunned that the food snob in me was actually impressed with the simplicity and efficiency of this culinary experience. 
     Satiated, I slept almost immediately. I was awoken, annoyed, to a very animated card game being played in the heart of my personal space. Several people were huddled around the seat next to me, kneeling on the seats in front so that they could face our row. I was caught in a moment of total claustrophobia mixed with embarrassment, as ugly faces too close to mine blew waves of breath and laughter in my direction. I mean, a minute prior I was probably snoring, mouth-wide-open, with drool streaming down my chin and likely the brunt of a few gaffaws. Meantime A1 was cracking jokes and enjoying the center of attention, as he sat in the middle of the sweaty huddle. I guess I should have realized that though the North American in me considered this to be socially obnoxious and offensive behavior, many of my colleagues saw it as completely common. They do not have the same rigid rules of personal space as Americans do. They simply took a tremendous amount pleasure in the moment, likely with hardly a thought on how it impacted me. Call it a harmless clash of cultures.  

June 6, 2013
     Off the plane and pretty quick through passport control. Three guys.......yes, 3........were tasked to prepare the visas upon arrival, a process that proved incredibly inefficient and time-consuming. I guess there's high unemployment? The customs guys, on the other hand, could not have been more disinterested in me as I walked through timidly. Outside the airport, my first time in South Asia itself, the place smacked of seediness. Strange guys loitered about gawking at our faces and gaping at our luggage. The feeling was slightly more menacing than I ever experienced in nearby Southeast Asia. Our guide reminded us often that it was not the best place to turn our backs on our belongings. 
     The bus we piled into smelled like a pack horse due to the heap of fresh-flower leis slumped over the front seat of the cabin. Eventually, as we rolled along the streets toward the hotel, the smell either dissipated or we just got used to it. There must have been bits of manure hidden among the flower petals, but amid the excitement of being in Nepal no one minded as we wore them.  
     That ride, by the way, was rowdy and ebullient. Uncharacteristically I joked that the driver was driving on the wrong side of the road (they drive on the left in Nepal), and it got quite a laugh. Actually as a kid I used to be quite good in crowds and was quite a clown; however, in adulthood I lost that ability because my humor seemed to get lost on jaded ears. I can still be quite dynamic in small groups, however, if you don't mind me saying so. 
     At the hotel we had to wait awhile for the room keys to be dispersed. I popped open my Capn Morgan and splashed some in my pineapple welcome drink right there in the lobby. S and D joined me, their eyes popping with the excitement of my mischievousness. Up to my room for a quick regroup and ceremonial dive on the bed. The room was clean, amply supplied and basic, as I like it. Back down in the lobby I met up with J, F and D. We were ready to paint the town red and within earshot of the hotel we hit a local dance spot for some beers, rum and some delicious chicken tikka pieces. At 11:45 the police walked in with rifles and kicked us out, not just us but everyone. Must be a law or something, and in the haze of sweat and drunken breath, we were not going to argue. From there we grabbed a tiny cab and made our way through the pothole-riddled backroads toward whatever casino the driver could take us to. It was dark with no streetlights, piles of dirt and trash lined the curbsides, and dogs and cows cavorted, picking at the garbage. At the casino there were more dancers, a bit better than the prior place, and my eyes darted back and forth disinterestedly between them and my friends at the blackjack tables. Not a casino guy, I felt alone in my boredom and finally gave up the cause. I had the porter call for a taxi and when he came negotiated the fare for the ride back. He said 10 dollars, I said 5 and we settled on 7. He sped through the dark, empty, bumpy streets and I sat in silence pondering the excitement others were enjoying and I was missing. Back at the room I wanted to sleep but felt compelled to check out the pool first. My luck, the door was locked. Oh well. I trudged back to the room for a good night sleep.

June 7, 2013
     The breakfast buffet was replete with omelettes and the usual other stuff with a smattering of some local items that did not impress by sight alone. I wasn't feeling adventurous and did not even attempt a forkful. Some of the group had already dragged themselves in, bragging of their fresh exploits from an all-nighter at the casino. I, instead, focused on my coffee and that day's excursion, for which we were now officially late. When you are part of a large group, invariably there are 5-10 discourteous people who don't respect the time and force everyone into a new schedule. This was the case today, so after several trips to the buffet and even more hot java refills, I took to the local adjacent streets for a stroll. I walked along peering into the shops but mostly distracted by the prospect of missing the excursion bus, very mindful of my own disgust for tardiness. It turned out that I had much more time than I needed or even wanted, so the stress of not making it back on time was completely in vain.  
     An hour and a half or so after I began my stroll, we rolled away on the bus. The organizers forced on us some silly "team-engagement" games, which they were obviously paid to do. Not my cup of tea. I spent my time gazing out the window at Kathmandu, which was the chief purpose of my trip in the first place. Within 45 minutes we reached a resort/campground and immediately the local staff rushed us into a further flurry of silliness. Frankly I'd have rather watched grass grow. Very few in the group paid any mind to the local music and food awaiting us. Most of the group preferred to eat candy bars and listen to Lady Gaga. Did anyone besides me notice that we were in Nepal, the land of eight the world's ten tallest mountains, including Mt. Everest, and some of the best trekking on the planet? I found myself bored out of my skull as I watched people make fools of themselves running with balloons between their legs and wanted so bad to sneak away for the city streets to soak up the local life. Afraid of how this would look to my colleagues, I resisted this strong temptation. "Would they even miss me," I thought. "Go ahead, Dave. You paid for this trip. Do what u want to do!! Damn the indecision!" I sat alone as the group danced to "Gangnam Style" in a circle. This isn't why I came to Nepal. 
     Buffet lunch with the group was followed by a cheezy awards ceremony. Nothing like a heavy dose of contrived team building. Finally back at the hotel I took out to the dirty, bumpy, muddy streets on my own to take some pictures of my surroundings. Feet hurting, I indulged myself with a relaxing massage before heading back for a shower then to S's room to share some long, cool Capn Morgans with him and A2. 
     Dinner was a quaint, local restaurant with the entire group just nearby the hotel. They put on a Nepalese cultural dance/music show as we dined. Some of the brasher guys of the group jumped on stage and sang as well. The food was curried chicken, bean soup, steamed dumplings, some sort of fried yam, black lentils, white rice, cauliflower, and sauteed greens, rice wine, and sweet yogurt. It was delicious, and the entire experience was one of my favorites in Nepal. The after-dinner menu included a generous serving of indecision. Some wanted to go here, some there, others somewhere else. Our group leaders wanted all 50-odd of us to stay together, but it was patently obvious that that was never going to happen. V, F and I stole away for some beers at a few local joints leaving the others to their confusion. 

June 8, 2013
      At breakfast I sat with M and M2, two of the more laid-back gals in the group. Once again it was mass confusion getting people organized, and the day's tour guides were visibly upset. It's difficult to imagine a Nepali getting upset, as they come across as such unruffled, imperturbable people. Finally a small bunch of us hopped the tour bus for a local temple and monkey forest. The sites were typically Nepali, and we enjoyed the morning history/culture lesson. 
     Back at the hotel for check-out and a last-minute tear through the souvenir shops. I wanted to buy a locally woven rug but the storekeeper and I couldn't agree on a price. He was asking $35, I wanted to pay $25, and so my pride and I walked away. Today I regret that silly move for the sake of a lousy $10. I bought Arch and me some t-shirts instead. Still eking out the remaining few hours of our trip, Z, A2, M and I hopped a taxi to get a bite at a local place. We gorged on steamed chicken dumplings, fried spicy potatoes, sizzling steak with potato and veg and Everest beer. No, not the best meal I ever had but it did the trick. God, I miss NY steaks! I bought some macaroons and croissants at the attached bakery, and we began to walk off the lunch on the streets of Kathmandu. After checking out some small, local casinos, we took a cab to the bigger casino at the Hyatt. I'm not a gambler but I also didn't feel like being alone, so I went along. Within minutes of arriving at the casino I got bored and sleepy and found a couch for a snooze. This is how I spent my last few hours in Nepal. We left a few hours later, and all I could think about was how little I took advantage of one of the best adventure-destination countries in the world. 

Monday, March 25, 2013

IMPRESSIONS OF A HOMELAND


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INTRODUCTION

I never thought I would have either the facility or opportunity to visit Armenia. The trip from America always seemed too much trouble: too costly and time-consuming considering the sparse vacation days we get in that country. Life in Dubai has changed my perspective, however, with Armenia situated only 3 hours away. I owed it to my ancestors to visit what I have always thought of as hallowed land.  

I grew up in a hybrid household of German-American and Armenian influence. Unfortunately, my dad Peter never learned to speak Armenian, and obviously, by default, I did not learn it either. I remember being very young at my grandfather Archie’s rug store on Madison Ave. in New York, and hearing this strange “gibberish” for the very first time. Archie had taken over the rug business started by his father, Mugerdich, who had established it in the early 1900’s after fleeing his birthplace, Palu, Turkey (part of ancient Armenian homeland) in 1895. Mugerdich fled Turkey to escape the “mini” massacres of Armenians that, now as history tells us, came to presage the better-known Armenian genocide of 1915.


Still fresh in my memory, at the turn of the decade in 1969-70, are the sights and smells of rugs piled high in the store and spread unmethodically on the dark, bare-wood floor, strong cigarettes and Turkish coffee, and the blurred murmurs of adult Armenian conversation and negotiations for the best price. I never understood a word, but I did not care. I felt safe within those walls. Elizabeth Montgomery of Bewitched fame was among the many celebrities who bought from Chamalian and Son.


After he retired, Archie moved his most treasured leftover pieces to his home in Leonia. (Peter, my dad, did not follow in the family business.) He kept them piled neatly on his chilly porch in case of moth infestation, the scourge of anything made from wool. We would often go through the pile together to reshuffle the rugs, spray for the tiny pests, take a peak once again at their brilliant colors and designs, recount a story or two, or if a former associate or customer came by to look or simply sought a cup of authentic coffee and conversation. Archie was a master negotiator and often the visitor would leave empty-handed. I don’t think he really wanted to sell the rugs anyway. They were his most beloved possessions, and he loved them with the greatest passion I have ever seen in my 47 years. In 1919 he failed out of Cornell engineering school because his father Mugerdich would send him rugs to repair, preventing him from concentrating on his studies. Years later, after my dad passed, the same scenes were replayed in my house in Cresskill when Archie and Ethel, his wife, moved in to raise us.


I learned as much as any kid could want to learn about his heritage growing up. The German-American part of me was easy to grasp, as I lived it in every aspect of my life at school, with friends, etc. The Armenian part required more work; it meant I had to be more proactive, more inquisitive, even be a pest by exploring further. Archie left me many memories, but there was much about his childhood and his parents and heritage that, now upon further reflection, I realize he chose to forget and therefore resisted burdening me with. At this point in my life I understand how this was both a shame and yes, a mistake: both by him for neglecting to share important aspects of his past or not sending me to Armenian school, and by me for being more concerned with my next pick-up baseball game than making the effort to question why I was who I was and what it meant to be Armenian. Lucky for me I have a second cousin that knew Archie and even remembers his parents, and she has enlightened me on so many things I had always wondered about. These insights prepared me very well for the second half of this discovery: my recent trip to Armenia. These last few months of reflection and connecting with family have helped rectify these errors a bit. They opened windows to my heritage that I thought had been permanently painted shut. It exposed someone in me that I never believed existed.

Now for my perspectives on this journey…………

THE PEOPLE


We learned something very quickly about Armenians when checking in for our flight to Yerevan. 99% of the people on line looked different than the typical Dubai resident and were obviously Armenians. Each of them was checking in at least two large flat screen tvs, which told me that electronics were expensive in Armenia and residents of that country found it necessary to come to Dubai to do their heavy-duty shopping. One guy had several bags filled with Zatar bread and seemed confused about how to manage his overweight luggage. This was our first insight into what awaited us.

After landing we met passport control. The agent was a pretty blond Russian woman who looked more like a famous actress than anything like the pictures I had seen of Armenian people, nor did she have facial features even closely resembling any of the passengers we had just flown with. Our first interaction in Armenia and we get a Russian? She looked at my passport and then looked at me for verification. “Where is your Armenian nose?” she inquired. I asked her how to say “thank you” in Armenian and after a brief pause she said, “Shnorhakalem.” I thought the whole scene was odd but, as we would learn later, it presaged some of the experiences that awaited us.


The Sudanese cab driver who took us to our hotel explained to us that Armenians are racist against blacks. I was taken aback by this comment, as I had never heard this before; however, he was obviously speaking from experience. He had been there now 16 years but it was difficult for him at first due to this issue. He fought a lot when he felt threatened but through time and age he came to understand that it was just ignorance. Now he lets it roll right off his shoulders and doesn’t experience it much anymore, as people have come to know him around town. He married an Armenian girl years back, which caused him problems as well. Armenian women are discouraged from associating with black men, argued our driver, and they can be ridiculed and chastised for it by their male family members and acquaintances. Nevertheless, he finished, Armenia is very safe for women to walk around at night without fear of harassment. This despite what a good friend told me before my trip, that men could even be aggressive. Nonetheless, I didn’t see any evidence at all of racism nor maltreatment of women in Armenia. 



People stared at us in Armenia. I could even see them snickering. Perhaps because they all wore black—they love black—and we westerners cannot resist the use of color in our wardrobes. Not only this, Yetty being Asian and me being a giant white guy may have contributed to the quirky fixations. We did not see one Asian during our trip and it being March, tourist season had not yet started and the European and American tourists were not yet strolling the streets. We obviously stood out like sore thumbs. I observed that the people did not seem to make their way in a carefree manner. There's a stress in their eyes as they strut purposefully on their paths. Their facial expressions reminded me of the Russians I observed on my trips there in the 80’s. Another common denominator of the Armenian collective countenance is that they look pleasingly, yes, refreshingly homogeneous. I hadn’t seen that quality in a people in quite some time. “The women are pretty but the men are ugly,” said a friend of mine, and I have to agree. It’s not that the men are naturally ugly; it’s more that they wear their hair flat, almost dorkishly, with very straight bangs hanging down their foreheads. An odd fashion statement, to say the least.


Armenians seems to be quiet people—not a lot of loud talking like in some other cultures. They do like to huddle in groups, however, and chat and smoke and stare at others (us). You learn a lot about people, their similarities to yourself despite linguistic differences, when you observe their movements, their gaits, their facial expressions, their laughter, their tears. They do like their vodka, and they drink it like water…..definitely a by-product of the Russians who ceded power only in 1991. Russian is also widely spoken language and even in everyday Armenian, Russian words are used.

Armenians are wonderfully hospitable after they get past the initial shyness. Actually they are noticeably unfriendly until you get to know them. One day, Yetty and I wandered into a cafĂ© in Dilidjan. The hostess was stone-faced and irritated by our presence. We ordered 2 Armenian coffees, some gata (sweet bread), and a piece of cake. She brought the food and drink displaying nary a glimmer of pleasure. Then we ordered a cappuccino, which seemed to further roil her. A local guy came in to order some food, and we took comfort in the fact that she was no more gracious to him. When we finished she walked over and barked the price at us. When I asked her for a bill instead she turned away in a huff. Oh well. Definitely a one-off as regards our interactions with people. Many of the people we met were very musical and could play several instruments and sing. I remember one guy who played a lovely guitar and had the voice of smooth, aged cognac. Deep lines in his face were testimony to the permanent smile he wore. When I felt the relationship was such that a gentle kiss on a woman’s cheek was appropriate as a display of gratitude or respect, they’d pull back as if this was not commonly done in their culture.


One of the drivers we hired, an older gentleman, Ashot, was especially courteous and pleasant. He was very enthusiastic in escorting us to a sampling of the many medieval monasteries still standing in Armenia. He took very well to Archie and walked him around like his grandson, arm around his shoulder. He took special pride and pleasure in telling us about the many offerings of his hometown, Dilidjan. Later in the evening, at his invitation, Ashot arranged an unbelievable spread of local culinary delights for us served by the ladies of the home (I cannot fail to mention that in a typical Armenian home, women do all the cooking, cleaning and otherwise, while men come and go as they please).

One night, in a public square, a girl was seated high up the base of a statue that adorned the park. Three policemen strolled over, saluted her casually and apparently reminded her that sitting so high on the pedestal was prohibited. It seemed such a polite exchange with smiles and a thank you. I was impressed with this well-mannered exchange and couldn’t help but think of how a NY police officer would have handled that situation…….not nearly as courteously, I'd imagine.

THE LANDSCAPE



The views above the Caucus Mountains as we flew over Iran en route to Armenia were breathtaking, and I couldn't keep my eyes off the snowy, treacherous peaks. Yerevan, Armenia’s capital, is a city similar to many others. The cable car was a surprise, though we didn’t try it. The city itself appears quite clean but there’s an unmistakable layer of soot everywhere, perhaps from pollution. No doubt it’s a 2nd world place with many leftovers from the Soviet era, and there's an eerie similarity to Cuba there…….but with an upgrade. The major difference with Cuba is that the buildings here are, for the most part, well maintained, but with the two having lived under the shadow of the former Soviet Union, the parallels are unmistakable. The Russian Lada is widely popular and many people convert their Ladas to run on propane gas, which is 5 times more economical than gas, according to a friend. While filling the car with propane, it’s required that all passengers step out of the vehicle as a safety measure.


The Vernissage, Erevan’s open-air market, is a place where you can find anything Armenian, from cheap chichi’s to antique, hand-woven rugs. I had my eye on two brilliant rugs there that practically jumped off the rope they hung from. I bargained, walked away, bargained some more, kept walking away, in the best way I know how. In the end I didn't buy. I carry a sense of guilt bargaining with people who, I imagine, have less than I do. You never know, though. Maybe they have more than I!


Garni is a village outside Yerevan and the location of our first excursion. The town has ancient roots and is best known for its Hellenistic, 1st Century AD temple. The fortification at Garni was erected, they say, around the 3rd century BC as a summer residence for several Armenian dynasties but was destroyed by the earthquake of 1679 along with the temple. Down below the fortress and pagan temple lies the Garni Gorge carved out by the Goght River. It was chilly up there on top of the canyon, and the snow-covered mountains on the horizon were magnificent. We bought some local apricot and walnut snacks, and I took the opportunity to kiss the ground there, something I promised I’d do. Not entirely sure that that was the most appropriate place to do so, but it seemed like the moment for it. From there on to Geghard, a monastery built into the mountains. The main chapel was built in 1215, but the monastery complex was founded in the 4th century by Gregory the Illuminator, who is credited with bringing Christianity to Armenia. The name Geghard refers to the spear that wounded Jesus at the Crucifixion and supposedly brought to Armenia by Jude, the apostle. Some of the churches within the complex are entirely dug out of the cliffs and others are simply caves. Others are more elaborate structures. We froze our fannies off there but what a wondrously unforgettable and picturesque place. Old ladies sold giant loaves of thick, round gata, and who can resist sweet bread anyway. We bought half a massive disc.


Back in Yerevan we ate at Ararat restaurant and saw the Armenian National Show. We were the only guests in the entire place but the performers went on anyway like true professionals. Very enjoyable and festive traditional music and dancing. Some might even say the dancing is similar to that found in Bulgaria. The food was decent but not spectacular, as it wasn’t required to be due to the dazzling spectacle of dance and music. The birav (beer) was cold, and that was half the battle. Republic Square, especially at night, is where the young and "need-be-seen" go. Great for people watching and one can sit for hours there just breathing the life of the place and soaking in the history of the cozy, lamp-lit square.

The ride out of the capital toward eastern Armenia for the second half of our vacation took us through some of the most impoverished areas of Yerevan. The conditions some people live in can only be characterized as base and ignoble. A friend said that 35% of Armenians live below the poverty line. I'm also told that the mafia control their fair share of things in Armenia, but they do not bother the local people in general. Armenia has a small middle class, my friend continued; the remainder are either very wealthy or very poor.


Outside Yerevan we hit the pictorial snowy mountains. The roads were teeming with potholes, and I can imagine it’s difficult to repair them with the extreme heat of summer and cold of winter wreaking havoc on them. We saw a lone wolf on an abutting mountain slope walking in the snow. We knew it was a wolf because we had inquired earlier if there were any wild animals in Armenia and were told that wolves, bears, deer and even a few leopards walked the hills. Only a wolf would be out there like that. Young boys with wind-burned faces in mismatched, woolen hand-me-downs sold little purple flowers called snowdrops on the side of the road (the first flowers that emerge from the earth during the spring thaw), and as we approached majestic Lake Sevan, fisherman with skin severely weathered by the sun and wind stood roadside outstretching their hands to indicate the size of the fish from their most recent catch. Lake Sevan is the largest lake in Armenia and one of the largest fresh-water high-altitude lakes in the world.



Check-in was simple at Tufenkian’s Old Dilijan Complex in Dilidjan, and the room was quaint like a country village inn but with modern facilities. The whole place smells like a fireplace, and we knew we were definitely in the mountains. I had taken a big chance booking this place way out in the middle of nowhere. Sure, it was a bit of a trek back to Lake Sevan, but the “old world” charm of the place, its friendly staff, and the cozy accommodations turned out to be well worth the gamble. Armenians love to build with stone, by the way, as their soil is very rocky, so maybe one day I can get my dream stone house built there!


Dilidjan is like a valley town located in the northern province of Tavush. The place is mostly forested and reclusive but many Armenian artists, composers, and filmmakers live there. The Complex we stayed in represents a preservation of “older times,” complete with craftsman's workshops, a gallery, a bakery, and a museum. The Armenian Central Bank is located in Dilidjan. One afternoon, Yetty and I took a casual walk through town. We saw a herd of cows on a small hill by the side of the road and one of them had obviously gone astray as he was wandering the street making what seemed to be desperate and confused cow noises. As we approached I decided to respond in deep “cow” to see what it would do. When the cow turned its head, I noticed it was actually a bull! He trebled my “cow,” as he was far more fluent than I, and in doing so he got so angry that the grass he was chewing came flying out of his mouth. So there we found ourselves……..in between a large wall on one side of the road and a fierce, provoked bull on the other………what to do……..Yetty grabbed me and we darted down along the side of the stone wall but only when cars passed to serve as a buffer. Whew! One of those scary, funny, and exciting moments you just do not expect in life……..

While in Dilidjan we visited two monasteries: Goshavank and Haghartsin. The former is a 12th/13th-century monastery founded by Mkhitar Gosh, a medieval Armenian ruler, and the latter dates to the 13th century. Neither is really being maintained as they should, but the latter one is currently being renovated thanks to the generosity a sheikh in the UAE. What a chilly, brisk day among the ancient rolling hills.


The following day our driver took us up the windy rode from Dilidjan back to Lake Sevan to see the Sevanavank Monastery. As vistas and locations go, this one was a favorite of ours. The views of this majestic body of water bookended by snow-capped peaks were nothing short of artistic. The monastery stands high on a bluff that requires some steep stair-climbing, and we absolutely did not want to come down! The driver waited an hour and a half for us at the base in the chilly air. Back in the car we made our way toward Kecharis monastery in Tsaghkadzor. We passed a town whose buildings look like the work of the Russians. There was even a nuclear power plant. The monastery was impressive, as they all are, thanks to their age and the history buried in the stone. You cannot help but conjure romantic visions of a time lost forever.


Tsitsernakaberd, our last stop in Armenia, is that country’s memorial dedicated to the victims of the Armenian Genocide. Located on a bluff overlooking Yerevan, this is one of the most moving few hours I have ever spent. The museum is filled with photos, videos, and accounts of the events of the 1915 massacres that took place in the Ottoman Empire and carried out by the Turkish government. What I found most interesting and enlightening were the perspectives of the contemporary world leaders on the planned exterminations, in their own words, and how repulsed they were at the events taking place. Outside the museum there are rows of small pine trees planted or donated by leaders all over the world who visited and acknowledged this horrible moment in history. I will omit further personal feelings and perspectives on this subject from this blog.

FOOD


Bread, bread and more bread. Armenians love bread. There’s the guy I mentioned before with the extra baggage filled with Zatar bread from Dubai. Za’atar is actually a generic name for a spice mixture that is applied on flat bread here in the Middle East made up of oregano, basil, thyme savory, sesame seeds, dried sumac, salt, etc. I guess he wanted to introduce his friends back in Yerevan to his new discovery. Gata, also explained before, was my favorite of all the breads I tried in Armenia. Nearly every meal we had there was accompanied by the freshest bread you can imagine and lavash, which is Archie’s (my son) favorite and an Armenia staple. Lavash is a soft, thin flatbread popular in the Caucuses. Normally it is baked in a clay oven and can be stored for 6 months to a year!! It can get hard and brittle fast, however, but nothing a few sprinkles of water can’t cure. In the US I believe it is called lahvash or cracker bread.



As we waited to board in Dubai for Yerevan, let me tell you the food choices were miserable: McDonald’s or a deli serving food with crust all over it……. We had to wait for an Arabic place to open, so there I was, mister bacon and eggs himself, ordering kebabs and white rice at 6am. Our first meal in Yerevan was at the Green Bean CafĂ©, a local organic food spot. What a great, wholesome meal of delicious soups and sandwiches.....great service....and local beer, Kilikia. It’s more of a tourist joint than anything else, but we needed to have a stable meal, and one we could fully trust, before getting adventurous.


Later that same evening we strolled into the Yerevan Tavern, admittedly with mixed feelings of trepidation and courageousness. What we got, however, was staggeringly sensational. Besides the lovely food, the experience brought back a hidden memory of mine from my early teens. The waiter, Sarko, brought Archie a glass of fresh apricot juice, which I had never had before. What it reminded me of, however, were the apricots my grandfather Archie used to buy at the Armenian store in NJ. Now, I've had dried apricots before from all over the world, but honestly they have never had the same silky smooth texture and flavor as those I remember as a kid. Something in the apricots of Armenia—maybe the soil or the sun or the water—that make them, in my opinion, the best in the world, and I could not get over the unexpected emergence of this treasured memory. 

At first the menus came entirely in Armenian, and Yetty and Archie were looking at me like I could tell them what to order. I didn’t have a clue, save for the pictures next to each dish description, which made the food look and sound scrumptious. At least I knew we had stepped into the right place, despite it being by chance. Later we would find out that that place is considered by many locals to be one of Yerevan’s best meals.  So now it was time to order, and order we did! Lamb and chicken soup; a spicy, tomatoey lamb and beef dish, dolma, bbq chicken, the fresh apricot juice, a few Kilikias, all finished off with some “Armenian” coffee. There is no coffee grown in Armenia; they simply import and package it. In fact, they call it Turkish coffee, ironically enough. Turkish coffee is named for its special method of preparation. After roasting, the coffee is ground very finely and boiled in a pot, often with sugar, and served in a small cup, similar to an espresso cup. The difference here is that before drinking, you MUST wait for the coffee grounds to settle. If you cannot wait, you will definitely regret it! Good to the last drop…..almost! This is not your typical “bottoms-up” type of coffee we drink in the States or Europe, nor is it coffee made in machines where the grounds and water pass by each other like two strangers in a dark alley. Time and attention is required. For the entire meal we paid an equivalent of US$25, or about 10,000 Armenian drams. What a deal! The people at the tables around us were drinking vodka, chatting, laughing and enjoying life....we would definitely go back!

Breakfast in Yerevan was usually Segafredo’s, a European chain. On our first try, our Moscow-born, half-Greek, half-Armenian waiter brought us an array of delicious bruschetta covered with tomatoes, mushrooms and cheese, an omelet with tomatoes and some wonderful coffees, teas, and fresh carrot-apple juice. The background music in Segafredo’s was very varied. We even heard bachata! That evening, at a friend’s house, our host made us some of the best dolma man has ever known. This was the meat dolma variety and served warm with garlic-yogurt sauce. This tasty treat combined with some other dishes, guitars, piano, singing, discussing religion and politics and history, and drinking vodka…….can’t forget the vodka…….made for a very special evening. I met my friend (we’ll call him Jacob) in Tappan, NY, several years ago. He had emigrated to America back in the 70’s and was now retiring back to Armenia. He had invited me to visit him one day in Armenia, and I told him I would try, knowing how hard it would be to live up to any commitment of doing so…………….but here I was, several years later, in his home, enjoying his food and company………let this be a lesson to all: cherish the contacts you make in life; you never know what can happen.


Something else I remember eating often as a kid were lachmajuns. If you’ve never had these Armenian-style pizzas, you are missing out. Lachmajuns, simply put, are meat with dough. The thin dough is topped with minced lamb, beef, and a variety of vegetables with herbs including onions, tomatoes, and parsley. After baking, some people sprinkle it with lemon. I remember my grandfather coming back from the Armenian store, and the first thing I’d do was dive into the lachmajuns. As wonderful as I remember them, however, the ones we had here in Yerevan were better.

On the long and windy road to Dilidjan, car-sickness got the better of Yetty. But as it turned out, she was more hungry than anything else. Dinner, then, at our Complex restaurant, Hay Kanoush was a feast: mushroom-apricot soup (yes, you’re reading this correctly), lachmajuns, beef stew with okra, a delicious salad of chick peas, olives, green pepper and tomatoes, rice pilaf and of course some fresh bread and lavash. On another dinner occasion there, we ate lamb bbq, trout with spinach, assorted cheeses, and lentil kufta. Breakfast here consisted of a variety of cheeses, breads, lavash, black cherry or cumquat preserves, pancakes, tomato or yogurt/honey omelets (Yetty liked but did not love……), some sort of Armenian cookie/cake with yogurt that I forgot to ask the name of, fried potatoes, harisa, which is a porridge made from previously stewed and boned chicken (or lamb) and coarsely ground soaked wheat and considered Armenia’s national dish, and souboreg, which consists of very thin layers of pasta filled with  cheese and herbs. Extremely tasty. In fact, one of the most pleasant dishes I have ever tried in my life. We’re so lucky to have found this place!


At another friend’s house in Dilidjan (actually our driver, Ashot), we were invited to a special dinner to share some of their local, homemade dishes. We did not expect such a huge spread, however, and regretted having eaten a hardy meal a few hours prior. Everything they served was either homemade or grown/made right there in Dilidjan, and our hosts were so proud of this fact. Rightly so, as it was a meal like no other. Fresh bee honey (not your supermarket variety), raisin jam, peach preserves, cheeses, breads/lavash, green beans exactly like grandma made!!, beet and kidney bean salad, homemade fruit juice, lentils/rice, apricot cake, and Armagnac. Emma, Ashot’s daughter-in-law, was the only one who spoke some but not much English, but it did not remove any enjoyment of the evening. We talked about a lot of things over the meal using the broken Armenian we had learned and the broken English they already knew. They were great hosts and wonderfully kind to us. Ashot gave Archie some deer antlers from a deer he shot, and his wife Nvar gave us some tea from her garden, extra peach preserves and her delicious fruit juice.

Ashot had taken us to another restaurant in Dilidjan—Tavoush—over  the preceding days. There we gorged on what else but fresh bread/lavash, pickled cabbage/pickles/scallions, cheese, a pile of fresh herbs, beer, cognac and roasted lamb. On another occasion Yetty was craving trout, and I guess Ashot had called ahead without us knowing because when we arrived, the chef was walking outside to his open air grill with stacks of the marinated river fish. Their grill set up would make even the most passionate grill master blush. It was a grand brick structure with stacks of local, seasoned woods crawling up the sides of a covered huddle. Above the smoky embers the trout lay crisping before our eyes. Lunch on this day was another great feast!! There was so much trout leftover that I asked the hostess to wrap it up, which she did in a swath of lavash. I gave it to Ashot but he refused out of courtesy. I had to force it on him!!


Our last memorable meal in Armenia was back at the Yerevan Tavern. I told you we’d make it back! Jacob joined us for dinner, which consisted of lamb and pork bbq (the latter for Jacob only), spicy beef liver, which I tried by accident, fresh peach juice, and Jacob and I shared a bottle of dry Armenian red wine. The gents at the next table were drinking beer, vodka, and tan, which is a watered down yogurt drink people have to wash down their meat. Another great meal served by Sarko.

So on this trip to Armenia, I ate my three most despised foods: beets, liver and honey. I figured that since they were all home grown and prepared, I might stand a chance of not being repulsed by eating them. I was right!

JUST BEFORE YOU GO….


After this latest meal at the Yerevan Tavern, we walked a good 3/4 mile through Yerevan to Liberty Sq. where sat Raffi Hovannisian, 12 days into a hunger strike. As we approached Raffi's entourage, we saw him sitting on a bench next to a tent while an Armenian poet recited emotively to the gathered crowd. We listened to her intently, understanding nothing, but knew her words held deep meaning to the attentive onlookers. Jacob, a huge Raffi supporter and friend, squeezed his way through the crowd to get closer to him and pled for a personal audience. His goal was to introduce me. I stood back cautiously, in case Raffi balked or was otherwise discouraged from doing so by his security detail.

Who is Raffi Hovannisian? He is an American-born (1959) Armenian politician, descendant of genocide survivors, and the founding leader of the Heritage party. He moved from his home state of California in 1990 with his wife and children and was appointed as the first Minister of Foreign Affairs of the newly independent Republic of Armenia. In this past February’s national election, Raffi was one of seven candidates for president and received, by official tally, 37% of the votes. Claiming mass election fraud, Raffi, along with other opposition leaders, declared themselves the true victors, and he spends his days living in a tent in Liberty Square having initiated a large-scale national movement called the "bare"volution to "return power to the people." Thousands of people on a daily basis stop by to see his encampment, greet him, hear him speak, sing with him and show, by their very presence, their unwavering, around-the-clock support. The authorities are steadfast in their refusal to compromise with Hovannisian–and thus the people–to hold a second round of presidential elections and to bring election violators, namely public servants at various levels, before the law.


Security and police walked about the park just in case of any disturbance. Raffi made his way over to the opera house steps where more of his young supporters were gathered with guitars and the excitement of their cause. It was a balmy early evening in Yerevan and only light jackets and maybe a scarf were required. Raffi sat and waited as the crowd now built around him on the steps and cameramen readied their equipment. All eyes were on this man
as he sat humbly, perhaps weakly after 12 days with no food, and he threw glances and winks and smiles at his followers. 


Jacob weaseled a seat next to his daughter who was adjacent to the presidential hopeful. He motioned and called for me. "David, come and sit; Raffi called us over!" I could hear the excitement in his voice. I declined, however, understanding that my role in that scene was to lay low and not take the spotlight away from Raffi. I was getting plenty of stares as it was, and I didn’t want to cause any further distraction from the man of the hour. Finally, the singer/guitar player seated behind Raffi began to strum softly. Only when he broke into song did the small crowd of a hundred or so hush and listen. The singer was entertaining, and you could sense that this joyous celebration of the cause of Raffi Hovannisian was going to continue for a few hours. According to Jacob it was a scene that replayed night after night. Yetty managed to snap a quick picture of me finally speaking with Raffi, and Jacob relished the fact that he introduced me to the man who could be the next president of Armenia.

When Raffi and I finally met, he reached out his gigantic hand and smiled brightly into my eyes …….
"What is your last name?" he said in a very deep voice.
“Chamalian,” I said confidently.
“Where are you from?” he continued.
“New Jersey.”
“Where is your family from?” He seemed genuinely interested.
“Palu,” I replied, “which is in Turkey.”
“That's actually Armenian territory,” he corrected. “What part of Palu?”
“I honestly don't know,” I muttered, feeling foolish.
“Is it the northern or southern side of Palu? he persisted.
“I honestly don't know." 
By then I felt too embarrassed not knowing these things that I had to deflect and close the conversation. "Jacob has told me so much about you. All the best.” 
“Welcome to the motherland,” he bellowed. And in me awoke someone I had never met before.